I'm not a big fan of tattoos, and I will probably never get one. But IF I did, I'd probably get these three words tattooed somewhere extremely visible so that I would have a constant reminder of my own ability to achieve or obtain absolutely anything I want in my life. But this isn't just for me - it's for anyone who wants to make the commitment to go after what they want and make it happen.
A few weeks ago, I was speaking on the phone with a client, and had a 3-step process pop out of my mouth. I told her that there were only three stages to getting whatever you want in life - and they are as follows:
Step 1: Clarify
Get super clear about what it is you want! Write it down. Revise it. Refine it. Be extremely detailed. Don't just say "I want a job" - instead, say "I want a job where I feel fulfilled every day, have flexible work hours, and can bring my dog to the office" (or whatever you desire to call into your life). Refer back to this often! I feel like a broken record sometimes when I continuously say that you get more of what you focus on or put out into the universe (which is derived from The Law of Attraction), so if you're putting out confusion into the universe, you're going to get that back. If you're putting out a clear vision, the universe is able to deliver. It's really that simple!
Step 2: Believe
In order to really get what you want, you have to BELIEVE that you already have it. For me, this step normally looks like writing out a letter to myself in the future tense, as if I already have what I want. I begin this letter with "I am so happy and grateful now that…" and write whatever it is that I truly want. This helps me to reframe the situation from "I want that" to "I already have that" and to cultivate the feeling I will have when I do actually get whatever it is that I want. You have to be able to fully envision what it is you want and make it real to yourself - you can't focus on the "yeah, but…" or the "that's not realistic because.." I'm going to promise you that if you do this and whole heartedly commit to your vision and believe it, amazing things are going to happen for you and you will receive whatever it is you want to call into your life even faster than you could've imagined.
The most important thing here is to eliminate any doubt you have about achieving your goal. Create some affirmations for yourself and refer back to your vision and future-tense letter to yourself. Talk to people who are supportive of your vision often. Get others on board. You CAN do it - you already have everything it takes. And yes, you deserve it!
Step 3: Receive
The first two steps are great, but if you're resistant to receiving - if you're saying "no" too often or shutting yourself off from opportunities that would allow you to get closer to your vision, then you're not going to see results. The key to this whole process is really to be open to receiving when all is said and done. You can't sit in the dark on your couch all day and be waiting for something to happen - you have to put your ass where your heart is! Get out there and put yourself in situations conducive to you getting what you want. Meet new people. Talk to them about your vision and what you'd like to create or bring in. If you're looking for a friend who likes to do the same things you do, go do the things you love! It so frequently happens that we can do the rest of the work and get stuck here - then we wonder "why isn't this working?!" and we get frustrated and lose hope. Stick with it - life has the ability to happen when you ACT. You can act by saying yes, surrounding yourself with new people, and getting out of your comfort zone.
My hope for you is that you will start using these three steps to bring anything you truly desire into your life. You'll see that over time and with practice, you can do these three steps almost simultaneously and become SUPER powerful in co-creating your best life.
And if you need a little help with all of these steps, shoot me an e-mail and we can set up a free 60-minute session! Get in touch with me at firstname.lastname@example.org! :) I do have some coaching spots opening up in July, so now's a great time to talk about how we can work together!
I also want to let you know that this REALLY works. It's not just some woo-woo thing. Incredible things have happened for me more frequently (and faster) than I could've imagined in the past few weeks.
In my 3-year vision, I included a Mini Australian Shepherd and a book launch. I've been looking for this dog for YEARS now and haven't been able to find one - there aren't any breeders locally and I couldn't find a rescue for quite some time. And when I thought about a book…I had absolutely NO idea what the heck I would be writing about, let alone where to begin! But behold! Last week, not only did I find the pup of my dreams (his name is Byron, after Byron Bay, Australia - home of the best veggie burger on the planet!), but I also unintentionally wrote an outline for my book, then texted a friend of mine who runs a program for IIN about how to write and publish your own book. She promptly responded that she supported me, and, by the way, did she mention to me yet that she had started her own publishing company in Pittsburgh? I WAS FLOORED.
Seriously, the past few weeks have totally restored and renewed my belief in this work, so I absolutely had to share these three steps with you to hopefully allow you to have just as miraculous, if not more miraculous, experiences in your own life!
I have another 3-step process that I will be unveiling shortly, so stay tuned for all the upcoming excitement! It's extremely powerful and more in depth than these three steps, but these are my version of the basics of manifesting/attracting/calling in your vision.
Hint: it's pretty intense, and it has to do with my tagline!
Looking forward to hearing all of your miraculous experiences in the comments below!